 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
 |
|
Can you follow your heart and use your head at the same time? How do you recognize the red flags that help you spot Mr. or Ms. Wrong from the get go? If you feel like you were absent the day love's rule book was passed out, here are some basics to help you with the relationship problems we all face.
Do's and Don'ts
CAN YOU RECOGNIZE A GOOD THIING WHEN YOU SEE ONE? FOLLOW DR. TARA'S DO'S AND DONT'S TO RECOGNIZE HEALTHY LOVE
Don't fall in love with someone's potential. Too many men and women choose a mate or stay in relationships with the hope that the other person will change.
Do be honest with yourself and ask: "Can I love this person exactly the way they are now without the expectation of change?" If not, find someone else.
Don't confuse lust with love. In a rush to feel close, people have sex prematurely, creating a false sense of intimacy, which can lead to disappointment.
Do take the time to create a genuine emotional connection and allow a passionate sexual relationship to grow
Don't overlook the red flags out of desperation to have a relationship. For example, if she hasn't fully ended her previous relationship, don't be so quick to get involved. If he makes a statement like 'I don't do commitment well,' believe him!
Do ask yourself 'Is this person really available emotionally and situationally?' (People tend to spend more time researching a TV purchase than a potential mate.)
STILL NOT SURE? HERE'S A REALITY CHECK FROM DR. TARA
Your love is returned. The person loves you back. You're not involved with someone you're trying to get to love you.
You don't feel like you're walking around on eggshells. If you have that tight feeling in your stomach, that's not love, that's you trying to get approval.
You feel great because a healthy relationship increases your self esteem.
Expose your authentic self. Be vulnerable and show emotional courage.
A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP OCCURS WHEN TWO PEOPLE FEEL SAFE REVEALING THEIR TRUE SELVES TO ONE ANOTHER.